These are my notes for Chapter 9:
1. What have I found helpful/insightful in this chapter?
The question that Tripp asks really struck me cold “Have you ever thought you knew someone well, only to discover significant details that you did not know at all?” p163. Do we really know someone? For we all have relationships and friendships with those we love, but they are only casual relationships that never grow into an intimate relationship. That makes us ineffective as ambassadors, because we don’t know people as well as we should. Why?
Tripp gives these outlines which apply to me strongly:
1. Busy lives: We don’t have time to build relationships with people.
2. We don’t want to face what our struggles reveal about the true condition of our hearts.
3. We are blind because of our SIN.
4. No one asks!!
This chapter has convicted me about my slack approach in meeting people and developing a relationship with people. The example of Jesus that Tripp brings out of Hebrews 4:14-16, shows that our suffering is Christ’s suffering. Christ came amongst us, experienced the pain and suffering and really got to know the nature of our suffering. Christ is our model for personal ministry.
The other insightful explanation of Tripp is the importance of asking good questions!!! We tend to ask very throw away questions when we meet people. I had the courage when I went to the 9:38 conference to ask a fellow Apprentice “How is your marriage?” I remember hearing a talk by Tony Campolo about how people don’t ask direct and personal questions because we are afraid to ask them.
2. How will what I’ve read apply to my preaching ministry or counselling?
I will try to be a more personal person in my relationships. This chapter has taught me the importance of preparing material for studies. I need to really know and engage my audience, and aim it at their level. I sometimes forget the people who I minister too, and there is the tendency for what I do to go right over the top of people’s heads. The value of good questions is key, and I pray that I may be able to ask good questions, and really care and know the people whom God will put before me to minister to.
3. Next time we meet I would like to discuss…
How do you go about composing and asking good solid questions?